Genuine human connection
One of my greatest joys as someone with ADHD is direct, honest conversation. One of my biggest frustrations is how often neurotypical folks avoid being honest or speak in veiled code.
I genuinely love when I ask someone how they’re doing and they give me an honest answer.
Things going well for you? Yay! 🎉 I’m so happy for you, truly, even if things aren’t as good for me at the moment.
Having a tough time right now? Please don’t tell me you’re “good” or “fine” just for my own comfort. Totally cool if you don’t want to go there, but I genuinely want to know how you’re doing.
Growing up, making friends was always hard for me. As an adult, even more so.
I sometimes wonder if this resistance to be honest and open is part of it. As a kid, you’re worried about looking uncool or like a nerd. As an adult, you’re worried about looking stupid or childish.
Except for my fellow neurodivergent nerds.
It brings me such a spark of joy when someone really tells me how their day is going, even if just for a fleeting moment as a cash register or waiting in line.